Love Strategies: Dating and Love Advice for Successful Women

Listen, if you're crushing it in your career but men seem turned off, I have news for you: it's not your resume. It's the three qualities that made you successful in the first place—control, lack of trust, and perfectionism. The same drive that helped you build your career can sabotage your love life if you bring that exact energy to dating. High-character men aren't intimidated by your accomplishments. They're just turned off when you try to control everything, don't trust them, or expect perfection. The good news? You can change these behaviors and start attracting the partner you actually deserve. If you're ready to get real help with this, head over to https://go.lovestrategies.com/begin and apply for a Love Strategy Session with my team. We'll dig into your relationship patterns and create a strategy to find your person. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Relationships can be a rollercoaster ride, with ups and downs that can leave us uncertain and anxious. One common concern that arises is when your partner starts to pull away. In this podcast, we'll explore the various reasons why this might happen and discuss strategies to navigate this challenging situation. Originally Aired: June 18th, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

You're smart, successful, and confident—exactly what attracts great men. But here's the uncomfortable truth: those same qualities also make you a target for a specific type of parasitic guy who knows exactly how to weaponize your strengths against you. In this episode, Gary and I break down the 5 disturbing tactics these men use—from competence mirroring to engineering false dependency—and how to spot them before they trap you. Because avoiding the worst 5-10% of guys out there will save you years of heartache and help you date more freely. Want to understand why you keep attracting certain types of men? Take our free 9-question quiz at attractiontype.com to discover your attraction archetype and finally break the pattern. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Are you sick of the same old dating advice? Our latest podcast shares 10 harsh truths about dating that you wish you knew sooner. Stop wasting time and start making real progress in your love life by learning these essential insights.A little tough love goes a long way. Originally Aired: Nov. 16, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Ever notice how the guys you ignore chase harder, while the ones you pursue vanish? It's not magic. It's about stepping into your power and letting high-caliber men do the pursuing. In this episode, I'm breaking down the 7 Little Love Steps we've used with tens of thousands of successful women to attract commitment-ready men. From radiating feminine confidence to pacing your connections, these steps put you back in the driver's seat of your love life. Ready to make the Little Love Steps work for you? Apply for a complimentary Love Strategy Session with my team at https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtual. We'll help you lock in your love vision and see if our coaching is right for you. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

"Guys only care about looks." This common misconception couldn't be further from the truth. While physical attraction plays a role, it's far from the only factor that draws men in. To truly captivate a man, you need to ignite an emotional connection. Here are 4 easy ways to make him emotionally captivated by you. Originally Aired: Dec.14, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Dating is hard. And look, I'm not here to sugarcoat it with toxic positivity or tell you to just manifest your man with crystals. The truth is 75% of daters say it's difficult to find someone, and half of Americans think dating is worse now than it was before. But here's what I know after working with thousands of successful women: the hardest part isn't that you're broken or doing something wrong. It's that you're doing it alone, without the right strategy or support. In this episode, Dr. Gary and I give you 10 honest truths about dating that will actually breathe some hope back into your lungs. Because the fact that you're here, listening to this, puts you in the top 0.01% of people who are intentional about finding real love. And if you want the step-by-step path we give our clients, go to thelovesteps.com for a free training on the 7 Little Love Steps that actually work. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Are you finding it difficult to maintain romantic connections? You might be unknowingly sabotaging your relationships. While you may be trying your best to impress and attract men, certain behaviors can inadvertently push them away. Here are seven common mistakes women make that can drive men away Originally Aired: Dec. 07, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

You've gotten really good at flirting. Maybe a little too good. Now guys are always approaching you, always wanting to chat you up, and you're thinking, "How do I turn this off?" Here's the truth: if you're going to be out there flirting and meeting men everywhere, you need an equally strong skill to turn away the wrong ones. Otherwise, you're just opening yourself up to confusion, frustration, and months wasted on emotionally unavailable guys. That's why we created the Anti-Flirt Method. In this episode, Gary and I break down exactly how to spot the men you don't want and how to discourage them quickly, kindly, and clearly. Use your nos to protect your yes. If you want the full step-by-step process for finding real love, go to https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtual and get our free 7 Little Love Steps training. And if you're ready for our team to guide and protect you every step of the way, head to https://go.lovestrategies.com/begin to speak with one of our love strategists. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

He wants to take a break. Those words can pierce right through you, and I get it - the confusion, the pain, the endless loop of "what if I'd done something different?" But here's the thing: you don't have to sit in that pain for months or years. You don't have to let his inability to commit derail your entire love life. I'm going to give you four powerful steps to move forward, including one that might feel counterintuitive but actually works faster than anything else. This isn't about wallowing or waiting until you magically feel "ready." It's about taking your power back and going out there to find someone who's actually right for you. If you want help getting back out there and attracting the committed relationship you deserve, head over to loveapply.com and apply for a complimentary love strategy session. We'll walk with you every step of the way. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Tired of chasing men who seem completely oblivious to you? Discover how to shift your mindset and behavior to attract the love you deserve. Learn the importance of independence, personal growth, and a positive outlook. Tune in to our latest podcast to discover the secrets to finding lasting love. Originally Aired: Oct 12, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

I hear this every single week: "Adam, I only attract narcissists. The good guys just don't exist in my area." And every single time, I tell my clients the same thing - you're wrong. The good guys ARE there. You're just filtering them out before you even give them a chance. Maybe it's because his profile pictures are terrible (spoiler: most guys' are). Maybe he talks too much about work on the first date because he's nervous. Or maybe - and this is the one that gets me - he's actually consistent and reliable, which somehow feels boring compared to the hot-and-cold drama you're used to. If you keep choosing the wrong men and want to finally break that pattern, I've created a free seminar called the Male Mind Map that breaks down exactly why men pull away and how to filter for genuine character instead of surface-level charm. Head to https://go.lovestrategies.com/map to watch it now. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

So how do you know if a man is falling in love with you? Here's the real deal: it has very little to do with his words and much more about his behavior. In this week's episode, Dr. Lewandowski and Adam LoDolce reveal the true signs that a man is falling in love. Originally aired: Oct. 17, 2022 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Look, I get it - you're a high achiever who crushes it at work. But here's the problem: that same intense, outcome-focused energy that makes you successful in the boardroom? It absolutely kills the vibe in the bedroom. In this episode, Gary and I are breaking down 8 psychology-backed strategies to help you step out of hustle mode and into real sensuality and connection. From hacking your hormones to creating the right environment, we're covering the mindset shifts that make intimacy 10 times better. Plus, we're revealing the actual research on how often couples should have sex - and spoiler alert, it's probably not what you think. If you're ready to dive deeper into this work and want personalized guidance, head over to loveapply.com to apply for a complimentary love strategy session with my team. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

You’ve been dating for a few months, and everything is GREAT. The start was amazing, and things have only gotten better. You’ve had the Define The Relationship (DTR) talk and are officially exclusive. You’ve made it to exactly where you want to be. But wait... Not so fast. Things have changed. The initial excitement has settled down. He’s not as attentive as he used to be. He seems different...he’s pulling away. Suddenly, there’s a lot to worry about. Is this a real problem or just a typical cool down period? Here are 3 Mistakes Women Make When Men Pull Away Originally aired: May. 26, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Look, I get it. You've been the person everyone leans on - the caretaker, the achiever, the one who always puts herself last. And now you're wondering if real love is even possible at this stage of your life. You've convinced yourself you're not worthy of it, or maybe you've just forgotten how to let someone in. But here's what I know: investing in yourself isn't selfish. It's essential. You went to college, built a career, supported everyone around you. So why not invest in finding the relationship you actually deserve? My clients who take that leap - who show up, do the work, and trust the process - are the ones building real, lasting partnerships. If you're ready to stop settling and start attracting a high-quality man who values you, take my free quiz at lovequiz.com to discover exactly what's blocking you from finding love. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Tired of those awkward first date silences? We've got the ultimate trick that promises to make any conversation sizzle. Uncover the simple yet powerful art of mirroring in today’s brand new podcast. Originally aired: Sep, 30, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

In today’s podcast, we're going beyond the usual clichés and explore four key traits that men genuinely desire but are often overlooked. These traits aren't just about attracting men; they are qualities that anyone can cultivate for their own personal growth and happiness. Originally aired: Dec. 14, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Ghosting hurts - no question. It feels like rejection, and your brain spirals: What did I do wrong? Why wasn't I enough? But here's the reframe that changes everything: ghosting isn't a sign you're losing. It's proof your standards are working. When you raise your standards, you naturally repel low-investment people. They see you won't settle, won't chase, won't bend - and they disappear. Good. That's the system working. Emotionally healthy men don't run from standards; they lean in. The wrong people exit fast. The right person will stay. If you want help protecting yourself through this process and building that ironclad mindset, head to loveapply.com and apply for a love strategy session. We'll show you exactly how to stop chasing and start choosing. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

When you're single, striking up conversations with people you find attractive can seem daunting. So, in today's podcast, Dr. Gary Lewandowski breaks down the The Science of Flirting: 7 Ways to Flirt With Confidence Originally aired: May. 30, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

I'll be straight with you: talking yourself into the wrong guy doesn't happen because you're desperate or naive. It happens because you're empathetic, capable, and actually really good at making things work. But those same strengths can become your biggest trap when you're dating someone who isn't showing up the way you deserve. In this episode, Gary and I break down the 4 subtle patterns that make you excuse bad behavior, chase potential instead of reality, and slowly erase yourself to make a relationship work. These aren't the obvious red flags—they're the quiet justifications that keep you stuck for months or even years with the wrong man. If you've ever wondered why you keep choosing guys who don't meet your standards, take the free Attraction Archetype Quiz at attractiontype.com. It'll show you exactly why you're ignoring red flags and where to put your energy so you can finally open your heart to the right guy. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

What if I told you there are incredibly simple yet effective techniques to show interest without uttering a single word? Each of these methods is grounded in scientific research and can catch the attention of someone new or signal your interest to someone you're already seeing. Originally aired: Jan. 05, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

A man's desire is not proof of his devotion. That single misread is where the confusion, the "slow fade," and the self-blame begin. Once you understand the evolutionary wiring behind male dating behavior, you stop taking his disappearing act personally and start seeing the difference between a man who wants your attention and a man who is ready for your life. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

If you keep decoding mixed signals and second-guessing your standards, this one is for you. I wrote about the quieter, behavioral signs that a man has already decided whether you're short-term or long-term, and how to actually see them. No scripts, no games, just a clearer way to read his effort, his calendar, and your own confusion. If you're ready to stop negotiating with "busy" men and start honoring what you actually want, then listen to this. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Are you ready to dive into the minds of men and discover what truly captures our attention? If so, check out today's podcast: 6 Things Men Notice First in a Woman and Find Massively Attractive. Originally aired: Nov. 26, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Brilliant at work, baffled by dating? For a woman who thinks for a living, "just flirt more" is not advice, it is an insult. In this episode we break down how high-achieving women turn a discouraging love life around without going casual or lowering their standards. Why pacing, structure, and one simple mindset shift matter far more than perfect photos or the right text. If part of you is ready to give up on love, and part of you refuses to, this one is for you. Delicia almost swiped past the man she's about to marry. Watch our free 7 Little Love Steps training to learn the strategy that changed how she dated: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtual NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Thanks to the internet, long-distance relationships (LDRs) have become a popular phenomenon. From spousal separations to meeting someone special online, LDRs are now more common than ever before. But how do you make it work? In this podcast, we share personal experiences and expert advice on navigating the challenges of long-distance love. We ask the most important question: Will it work? We discuss the risks involved in investing in a long-distance relationship and the role that distance plays in creating desire. Join us as we explore different scenarios where we might recommend pursuing an LDR, and discuss strategies for making it work. We'll cover topics like quality time versus constant quantity, having a plan to live near each other within a year, and spending more than just a weekend together. Originally aired: Apr. 09, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

You've done the therapy, read the books, and know exactly what you want. So why do men still pull back just as things get serious? Often it isn't that you're not enough. It's that the intelligence and self-protection driving your career are quietly sabotaging your love life. Stop unintentionally scaring great men away and learn a proven step-by-step dating strategy: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtual Here are the five invisible behaviors to watch for, and how to trade each one for real connection. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

How do you build desire and make a man miss you? Create scarcity without playing games. In this week's podcast, we discuss (debate) the power of making a man miss you through the dating process. Originally aired: Dec. 18, 2022 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Stop wondering if he’s "The One" based on a "vibe" and start using data to find your person. In this episode, we break down the Date Night Debrief, a simple 10-minute strategy rooted in decision-making science to help you stop obsessing and start dating with clarity. Stop overthinking every text and start using our 10-minute post-date debrief to actually see who is worth your time. Learn a Male Mind Map: https://go.lovestrategies.com/map NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

When I started looking at why so many accomplished women stayed stuck in love, the patterns were uncomfortably familiar: comforting beliefs, overprotective friend circles, and a quiet refusal to be a beginner at anything. In this episode, I walk through the specific mindset shifts that actually move the needle, without asking you to shrink or pretend to be “less.” If you’ve ever wondered whether your success is secretly working against you in dating, you may find the real answer both confronting and relieving. And more importantly, you’ll see exactly where your power has been all along. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

In this episode of the podcast, hosts Adam LoDolce and Dr. Gary Lewandowski dive deep into the 7 biggest turnoffs for men. The problem they address is that many women believe that turnoffs have to do with physical attributes, but the reality is that when a man is in the market for a serious relationship and looking for a high-value partner, turnoffs become emotional. Through their own personal experiences and expert insights, Adam and Gary explore the turnoffs that both men and women can relate to. They start with the idea of trying to control the uncontrollable and how it can be a major turnoff for men when women talk about the future or lean into their masculine side. They also touch on the idea of unearned affection and how it can be off-putting when a woman gives too much before a man has done anything to earn it. Other turnoffs that they discuss include a lack of interest, perceived promiscuity, the double O effect (obvious and ordinary), a negative attitude toward love, and being a doormat without clear boundaries. They also explore the idea of playing games in dating, and how it can come off as immature rather than strategic. Throughout the episode, Adam and Gary offer their expert advice on how to avoid these turnoffs and how to cultivate healthy, thriving relationships. So, if you're curious about what makes men tick and how to create a lasting connection, this episode is a must-listen. Originally aired: May. 07, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Stop agonizing over when you should text, and start using data. We’re breaking down a brand-new study that debunks the "Three-Day Rule" that's actually destroying your dating life. Learn the exact "Sweet Spot" timing that increases chemistry and makes a second date almost inevitable. Skip the confusing “three day rule” and use research-backed texting that actually builds chemistry after a great first date: https://go.lovestrategies.com/begin NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Most successful women don't struggle in dating because they lack options. They struggle because the same drive that built their career quietly works against them in love. I've coached thousands of women through this. The patterns are consistent, and so are the exits. So if you've ever felt stuck without knowing exactly why, this one's for you. Stop letting limiting beliefs and “I’m not ready yet” thinking quietly stall your love life and watch our free 7 Little Love Steps training to reset your dating mindset and start creating the relationship you actually want: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtual NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

A peculiar trend has emerged in the ever-evolving landscape of modern dating, leaving many to wonder, "What in the world are guys doing?" The scenario is all too familiar: you're texting a guy, the conversation is flirty, sparks are seemingly flying, and then suddenly, it all fizzles out to nothing. You might even suggest going out sometime; he agrees enthusiastically, and then... radio silence. Here’s how to know if he likes you, or if he’s just breadcrumbing. Originally aired: Mar. 03, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Think he’s just checking out your eyes? Think again. Men are subconsciously "thin-slicing" your behavior from the very first minute to decide if you're a partner or a "project." We’re diving into the 5 specific things high-character men prioritize and why being "impossible to please" is the quickest way to lose a great guy. Want to stop wondering if he’s genuinely into you or just being polite and start sending clear green-light signals that high character men actually respond to? https://go.lovestrategies.com/cap NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

So what do men REALLY find attractive in a woman? Is it her physical appearance, or are there other more important attributes that matter? In this week's podcast, Gary and Adam discuss what men find attractive in a woman, and it has very little to do with age, hair, or makeup. Originally aired: Jan. 17, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

If your past dating choices have left you questioning your own judgment, it’s time to stop "following your heart" and start recalibrating your discernment. This episode breaks down why your gut feelings might be failing you and provides a high-level framework for rebuilding self-trust and spotting red flags before they become regrets. Start rebuilding your dating instincts so you stop second-guessing yourself and stop attracting the wrong men: https://go.lovestrategies.com/map NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Whether you’re dealing with a one-time ghoster or a guy who’s suddenly MIA mid-connection, here’s what his behavior is actually telling you—and how to respond without losing your sanity (or your standards). Originally aired: Jun. 25, 2025 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

In this special episode, join Executive Love Coach Robin as she reveals how to master feminine confidence without losing your professional edge. Learn why "feminine energy" isn’t about being less powerful, but about installing the right "software" to transition from the boardroom to a romantic connection. Robin shares practical scripts and shifts in appreciation that will transform how you show up on your next date. You'll learn Why feminine energy is a tool, not a makeover. How to transition use more feminine energy without feeling inauthentic. Real-world scripts: What to say instead of "Why are you still on the apps?" or "Just come to my house. Want practical, real-world examples of how to stop over-functioning in your masculine and start dating from your true feminine energy instead go to https://go.lovestrategies.com/begin NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Are you tired of attracting the same type of partner? In this episode, we're moving beyond identifying the wounds that attract unhealthy partners and shifting the focus to what truly matters: your worth. Tune in for five powerful strategies to help you break old patterns and attract a fulfilling partnership built on a foundation of self-love and confidence. Originally aired: Oct. 11, 2025 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

We’ve all seen the script play out: The texting is solid. The effort is visible. You feel a genuine connection sparking. And then, silence. Ghosting become the "new normal" of the digital dating era. But as we tell our clients, while ghosting is common, it is never random. Here is the psychological reality behind why men vanish. Stop making his silence mean something about you and start using ghosting as a filter, not a verdict on your worth: https://go.lovestrategies.com/begin NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

In this special client interview, Gary sits down with Tracy, who went from crying on a consultation call to finding her "above average Joe" just weeks after her lowest moment. After 22 years in a dysfunctional marriage, Tracy learned to trust herself and build healthy boundaries. Discover how Tracy found the kind of love where someone would "move mountains" for her—and how the skills she learned improved every relationship in her life, including with her adult daughter. Originally aired: Aug. 18, 2025 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

If you’re tired of hearing "fine" and "nothing" every time you ask a man how he’s doing, it’s time to change the input to get a better output. We’re breaking down the 10 power questions that bypass the "small talk trap" and get him to open up faster than years of hinting ever could. Want to stop getting one-word answers and start having real, vulnerable conversations with men that actually build connection? Book your free Love Strategy Session: https://go.lovestrategies.com/begin NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

I’m not here to sugarcoat things… I’m here to tell you the brutal truths about dating men that most women never hear. If you’ve been attracting the wrong guys—emotionally unavailable men, commitment-phobes, or “man-children”—this video is for you. These 7 truths might sting a little, but they’ll also set you free. I’ll show you what’s really holding you back in love, and how to finally open the door to the kind of relationship you truly deserve. Discover your Attraction Archetype by visiting: http://www.attractiontype.com/ Originally aired: Sep. 24, 2025 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session